Dorris

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The following is a true story, as I remember it, from my childhood.  I was about 7 years old and was peeking out from behind my mother's apron.  Hope you enjoy the story.  Leeanna

Slightly 5 foot 1 inch tall and sporting flaming red hair, which was actually auburn enhanced by Miss Clairol, my mother stepped onto the elevated front porch.  With one hand on her boney hip, and the other shaking a pointing finger, she fearlessly addressed the motorcycle gang, that had just taken unprecedented liberties with her freshly manicured front lawn and her beloved monkey grass and petunia-lined sidewalk.  Well-heard, over the sound of 13 revving Harley's, Dorris barked out her orders with the authority of a Hitler to his underlings. "GET THOSE BLANKETY-BLANK BIKES OFF OF MY BLANKETY-BLANK GRASS, RIGHT NOW!!!".  

I was captivated by the way my mother was able to sound out her orders so loudly, while at the same time balance a freshly lit Winston filterless cigarette out of the corner of her Merle Norman painted lips.  Horrified, her teenage rebellious son, who had just returned from California with these goliath beings on the lawn, abandoned his own bike in a flash and leapt onto the porch in order to save our french-twisted mother's uninformed, spunky life.  I heard my brother in a loud panicky whisper say, "MOM! HUSH! You don't know who you are yelling at! Those are THE HELL'S ANGELS!".  My mother's reply? "WELL, HELL'S BELLS! I DON'T CARE WHO THEY ARE"! She yelled even louder, "THEY CAN GET THEIR BLANKETY BLANK ARSES OFF MY BLANKETY BLANK GRASS OR ELSE!!".

No one was more surprised than me, when I saw twelve, 200-pound Hell's Angels, carefully back their Harley's off my mother's grass and thunderously slink away.

GENESIS PROCESS INFORMATION

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The Genesis Process FASTER scale is a form of a behavior scale for relapse awareness. Before relapse happens, many biological, psychological, and social changes affect your neurochemistry. You speed up to avoid fear and pain increasing anxiety and anger. Emotions can be used to mask pain. This depletes neurochemicals, causing hopelessness and exhaustion. In this state of exhaustion, addicts isolate themselves and feel they cannot cope without chemicals. Relapse is inevitable. Every letter in the word “FASTER” stands for one of the steps in the relapse scale on the following pages. This scale reflects a progression of strong emotions that mask pain. It explains neurochemically what you go through in your descent to relapse. Remember anger and anxiety release adrenaline and norepinephrine, which speed up the body. After speeding up, you get ticked off, and then exhausted. Have you relapsed because you felt the hopelessness of exhaustion? Remember your last words and feelings before you relapsed.
Life Skill #
Process 8 - Deja Vu
You will condense your relapse triggers into a simple format that will be the base for your Relapse Prevention Recovery Plan. This process combines the information into a typical relapse pattern called the Deja Vu Faster Relapse Scale. You will learn about "double binds" that keep you from making the right choices for recovery. You will then identify the old behaviors replace them with healthy ways of responding with Scripture verses to help you choose the truth.
Process 9 - Accountability
You will implement a long term relapse prevention plan which will enable you to continue to grow. You will create a personal support and accountability team for your balanced recovery plan. The seven areas (morals, integrity, romantic relationships, reactions, optimistic outlook, recovery and spiritual growth) are integrated into your weekly plan with mentors to help mirror healthy behaviors for each area.
Process 10 - Exodus
Through prayer and forgiveness, you will resolve past hurts and mistakes, empowering you to begin to walk into a new life of full recovery. This Process deals with acceptance of a new life-style and release of the guilt and shame associated with the old addictive/ compulsive behaviors. You, your counselor and your support team will join together to pray for repentance, forgiveness, inner healing and freedom from the destruction of generational patterns and dysfunctional family issues. 

TOOL: “FASTER” AWARENESS SCALE
Anything that speeds up the body dulls the awareness of physical and emotional pain.
“R” – Recovery The highest state on the model is the first stage – Recovery. This depicts “surrender”. It is an attitude of acceptance of life on God’s terms, taking both the good and bad with an attitude of gratefulness for God’s love and help from others, moving forward openly and honestly, and facing and resolving problems. It is becoming part of the solution rather than the problem. Keeping secrets causes relapse. Recovery means staying accountable.
“F” – Forgetting Priorities A sudden change in plans and priorities is one of the first signs of a dry relapse. For example, a person plans to go back to school in order to obtain a degree. One week later, the plan changes. The plan now is to go out and get a job, a new car, an apartment and to think later about going back to school. Either consciously or subconsciously, the person facing the new challenge wants to find a way to avoid it. New priorities produce excitement – releasing chemicals in the limbic system, which speed up the body and diminish fear or boredom. You begin to avoid simple life tasks or recovery commitments.
Step 1
Dry Relapse
“A” – Anxiety The next level of neurochemical release is brought about by drama – overreaction or under reaction to circumstances and to others. In the stage, old tapes are run over and over again. In recovery circles, this is called “blaming people, places, and things for the way you feel”. When you become critical of other people’s behavior, your focus is directed toward them, and away from yourself and your own problems. Faith and worry cannot exist in the same mind at the same time. When you choose to worry about things, especially things you can’t control, you feel an emotional charge, an anxious adrenaline rush fueled by the “regrets” of the past and the “what if’s” of the future. Unfortunately, your ability to see and resolve today’s problems is greatly diminished.
Step 2
“S” – Speeding Up In this level of neurochemical anesthetic, feelings of fear or depression are subconsciously avoided by speeding up. Hallmarks of this stage are the inability to slow down or relax, working too much without eating regular meals during the day, and bingeing at night. Consuming more caffeine and sugar is another way to speed up. Speeding up through working long hours, going out every night, staying up late, over/under-eating, and compulsive spending are some ways that you outrun depression and deny that you have physical or emotional needs.
Step 3
Dry Relapse
“T” – Ticked Off Full-blown anger increases neurochemicals, like adrenaline, endorphins, and norepinephrine. Here you feel big, right, strong, confident, assertive, and unaware of pain. Remember, neurochemically, pain killer, but an effective physical pain killer. Your emotions, anger, and over reactions are much greater than the circumstances would normally warrant. You may shame and blame others, pushing them away with an attitude of “I don’t need anyone”. Walls of rejection isolate you as you fume and rage about your unmet needs. The result is that you are pushing people away when you need them the most.
Step 4
“E” – Exhausted In this stage before using, the body’s neurochemicals are nearly depleted, making pain, anger, panic, and anxiety unavoidable. Remaining in this stage for any length of time will cause you to feel tired, hopeless, and depressed. Moreover, if a crisis occurs at this stage, you are unable to cope. The survival part of your brain creates a craving for your addiction.
Step 5
“R” – Relapse Returning to the place you swore you would never go again. Giving up, giving in, out of control, lost in your addiction. Lying to yourself and others. Feeling you just can’t cope without it; at least for now.
WET RELAPSE

All of the steps have one thing in common: procrastination. As you fail to deal with problems, you move down the FASTER Scale. Crisis comes at a time when you are least able to deal with it emotionally. The short version of the FASTER scale is speeding up > ticked off> exhausted>relapse. Procrastination makes problems worse, and isolation eliminates the wise counsel of your sponsor, friends, and family, who will help you see the big picture and resolve problems. Addicts must accomplish isolation in order to relapse. Regular accountability (using the FASTER scale) is the antidote for isolation.

Instructions: Check your thinking by referring to this scale. You may be experiencing an incident rather than a pattern. Having Dry Relapse symptoms doesn’t mean you’re in a Relapse Pattern. Circle behaviors with which you can identify with either now or in the past. Reoccurring symptoms indicate a Dry Relapse Pattern.
FASTER RELAPSE AWARENESS SCALE
The F–A–S–T–E–R
Dry Relapse Pattern


Recovery (What people in recovery look like)
No current secrets; resolving problems; identifying fears and feelings; keeping commitments to meetings, prayer, family, church, people, goals, and self; being open; being honest; making eye contact; reaching out to others; increasing in relationships with God and other; accountability.



“F” = Forget Priorities (Denial; flight; a change in what’s important; how you spend your time and thoughts.) Secrets; bored; less time/energy for God, meetings, and church; avoiding support and accountability towards people; superficial conversations; sarcasm; isolating yourself; changes in goals, flirting; obsessed with relationships; breaking promises/commitments; neglecting family; preoccupation with materials things, television, or entertainment; procrastination; lying, overconfidence, hiding money.


“A” = Anxiety (Getting energy from emotions.)
Worry; using profanity; being fearful; being resentful; replaying old, negative thoughts; perfectionism; judging others’ motives; making goals and lists you can’t complete; poor planning; mind reading; fantasy; masturbation; pornography; co-dependent rescuing; sleep problems; trouble concentrating; seeking/creating drama; gossip; using over-the-counter medication for pain, sleep, and weight control.


“S” = Speeding Up (Out-running depression.)
Super busy; workaholic; can’t relax; driving too fast; avoiding slowing down; feeling driven; in a hurry; can’t turn off thoughts; skipping meals; binge eating (usually at night); overspending; can’t identify own feelings/needs; repetitive, negative thoughts; irritable; making excuses for “having to do it all”; dramatic mood swings; lust; too much caffeine; over exercising; nervousness; difficulty being alone or with people; difficulty listening to others; avoiding support.


“T” = Ticked-Off (Getting high on anger; aggression.)
Procrastination causing crises in money, work, or relationships; sarcasm; black and white, all or nothing thinking; feeling alone; feeling that no one understands; overreacting; road rage; constant resentments; pushing others away; increased isolation, blaming; self pity; arguing; irrationality, can’t handle criticism; defensive; people are avoiding you; having to be right; digestive problems; headaches; obsessive (stuck) thoughts; can’t forgive; feeling grandiose (superior); intimidation; feeling aggressive.


“E” = Exhausted (Out of gas; depression)
Depressed; panicked; confused; hopeless; sleeping too much or too little; can’t cope; overwhelmed; crying for “no reason”; can’t think; forgetful; pessimistic; helpless; tired; numb; wanting to run; constant cravings for old coping behaviors; thinking of using drugs and alcohol; seeking our old unhealthy people and places; really isolated; people are angry with you; self- abuse; suicidal thoughts; no goals; survival mode; not returning phone calls; missing work; irritability; loss of appetite.


“R” = Relapse
Returning to the place you swore you would never go again. Giving up; giving in; out of control; lost in your addiction; lying to yourself and others; feeling you just can’t manage without your coping behavior, at least for now. The result is usually shame, condemnation, guilt and aloneness.

Dry Relapse
Wet Relapse

Faster Relapse/Moral Failure Awareness Scale
For Week of:_______________________
1. In each section of the Faster Scale, underline each behavior that you identified with through this week.
2. In each section, circle the one most powerful behavior and answer the following questions in one sentence: A. How does it affect me? How do I act and feel?
B. How does it affect the important people in my life?
C. Why do I do this? What is the benefit for me?
Restoration – (Accepting life on God’s terms, with trust, grace, mercy, vulnerability and gratitude.) No current secrets; working to resolving problems, identifying fears and feelings; keeping commitments to meetings, prayer, family, church, people, goals, and self; being open and honest, making eye contact; increasing in relationships with God and others; true accountability.
A.__________________________________________________________________________________________________
B.__________________________________________________________________________________________________
C.__________________________________________________________________________________________________ ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Forgetting Priorities – (Start believing the present circumstances and moving away from trusting God. Denial, flight, A change in what’s important, How you spend your time, energy, and thoughts.) Secrets; less time/energy for God, meetings, church; avoiding support and accountability people; superficial conversations; sarcasm; isolating; changes in goals; obsessed with relationships; breaking promises & commitments; neglecting family; preoccupation with material things, T.V., computers, entertainment; procrastination; lying; over-confidence; bored; hiding money.
A.__________________________________________________________________________________________________ B.__________________________________________________________________________________________________ C.__________________________________________________________________________________________________
Forgetting Priorities will lead to:
Anxiety – (A growing background noise of undefined fear; getting energy from emotions.) Worry, using profanity, being fearful; being resentful; replaying old, negative thoughts; perfectionism; judging other’s motives; making goals and lists that you can’t complete; mind reading; fantasy, co-dependent rescuing; sleep problems, trouble concentrating, seeking/creating drama; gossip; using over the counter medication for pain, sleep or weight control; flirting.
A.__________________________________________________________________________________________________ B.__________________________________________________________________________________________________ C.__________________________________________________________________________________________________
Anxiety then leads to:
Speeding Up – (Trying to outrun the anxiety which is usually the first sign of depression.) Super busy and always in a hurry (finding good reason to justify the work), workaholic, can’t relax; avoiding slowing down; feeling driven; can’t turn off thoughts; skipping meals; binge eating (usually at night); overspending; can’t identify own feelings/needs; repetitive negative thoughts; irritable; dramatic mood swings; too much caffeine; over exercising; nervousness; difficulty being alone and/or with people; difficulty listening to others; making excuses for having to “do it all”.
A.__________________________________________________________________________________________________ B.__________________________________________________________________________________________________ C.__________________________________________________________________________________________________
Speeding Up then leads to:
Ticked Off – (Getting adrenaline high on anger and aggression.) Procrastination causing crisis in money, work, and relationships; increased sarcasm; black and white (all or nothing) thinking; feeling alone; nobody understands; overreacting, road rage; constant resentments; pushing others away; increasing isolation; blaming; arguing; irrational thinking; can’t take criticism; defensive; people avoiding you; needing to be right; digestive problems; headaches; obsessive (stuck) thoughts; can’t forgive; feeling superior; using intimidation.
A.__________________________________________________________________________________________________ B.__________________________________________________________________________________________________ C.__________________________________________________________________________________________________
Ticked Off then leads to:
Exhausted – (Loss of physical and emotional energy; coming off the adrenaline high and the onset of depression.) Depressed; panicked; confused; hopelessness; sleeping too much or too little; can’t cope; overwhelmed; crying for “no reason”; can’t think; forgetful; pessimistic; helpless; tired; numb; wanting to run; constant cravings for old coping behaviors, thinking of using sex, drugs, or alcohol; seeking old unhealthy people & places; really isolating; people angry with you; self abuse; suicidal thoughts; spontaneous crying; no goals; survival mode; not returning phone calls; missing work, irritability; no appetite.
A.__________________________________________________________________________________________________ B.__________________________________________________________________________________________________ C.__________________________________________________________________________________________________
Exhausted then leads to:
Relapse/Moral Failure – (Returning to the place you swore you would never go again. Coping with life on your terms. You sitting in the driver’s seat instead of God.) Giving up and giving in; out of control; lost in your addiction; lying to yourself and others; feeling you just can’t manage without your coping behaviors, at least for now. The result is the reinforcement of shame, guilt and condemnation, and feelings of abandonment and being alone.
A.__________________________________________________________________________________________________ B.__________________________________________________________________________________________________ C.__________________________________________________________________________________________________
Adapted from the Genesis Process by Michael Dye — www.genesisprocess.org


CHANGE GROUP GUIDELINES

GOAL:

To promote change and prevent relapse.

1. Determine what your client is currently struggling with or being challenge by. You're looking for symptoms of subconscious fear or other reoccurring destructive patterns.

Ask probing questions.

A. What Process are you working on and what are you struggling with or stuck on?

B. Did you over or under react to anything this week?

C. Have you been procrastinating or avoiding anything this week?

D. Where are you on the Faster Scale and why.

PROCESS

Name the fear and move towards resolving it.

Step 1. Feel the feeling. I.e. how does the problem from above make you feel?

Step 2. Name the feeling, (fear, anger, sad, guilt, numb,ect.) . Remember to separate thoughts from feelings. Try to name the causes rather the symptoms.

Step 3. What is the thought / belief system (projected / survival lie) that supports the fear/feeling that results in the behavior. I.e. What would I have to believe to do or feel this?

A. Use Double Bind Worksheet, Reach Scale, Name That Button,

B. Road to the Wound, False Beliefs (page 40) ect to help find the core belief.

Step 4. Reattach the fear / coping behavior to the control of God / Jesus. See page 60, Dialoguing With God. Repent of not trusting Him in this area. Look for a protective personality.

Step 5. Break the secrecy / isolation of the problem / fear, by having the client take steps towards resolving it by using the group for specific support and accountability. See Double Bind Worksheet. Use Process 10 principals. Forgive those who caused the fear/wound, ask forgiveness from those they have hurt in the same way (homework).

Step 6. Use the Genesis Group Worksheets to track progress.

Step 7. Refer the issue to the clients Genesis Counselor for deeper work if necessary.

Note: Some symptoms of subconscious fear are: anxiety, anger/rage, isolation, procrastination, changes in priorities, compulsive behavior, judgments, mind reading, blaming, narcissism, speeding up, workaholism. criticalness, addictions, controlling, numbness, perfectionism, religiousness, problems with sleep, food, and especially reoccurring relationship problems. Check the FASTER SCALE.

REMEMBER, THIS IS ONLY A GUIDELINE, BE FLEXABLE AND CREATIVE.

By Michael Dye



STEPS MAGAZINE PRESENTS 
Relapse and the Brain 
by 
Michael Dye 

In very simplistic terms, we have two parts to our brains. The first part is the neocortex. It is located in the front of the head and receives and stores information for decision making and remembering. The other part is called the limbic system, which controls all the automatic systems of the body and the emotions. Most importantly, the limbic system controls the survival responses, i.e., fight or flight and freeze. When you feel threatened, these protective responses tell you either to defend yourself or to run away or go numb. The limbic system doesn¹t have a memory like the neocortex. It doesn't know the difference between yesterday and 30 years ago, which explains why some of our childhood traumas still trigger us so powerfully today. It is the limbic system that is most affected by our beliefs, behaviors and addictions. The limbic system can be negatively programmed through traumatic experiences such as growing up in a stressful or" dysfunctional family". Basically the limbic systems encourages us to repeat things that give us pleasure and take away pain and avoid things that hurt or have to do with fear. Drugs, alcohol and other compulsive behaviors have programmed the limbic system to avoid the awareness of uncomfortable thoughts and feelings instead of making healthy responses to resolve fear. 

The Addictive Brain 

Events come through our senses and are fed into various parts of the brain. The limbic system colors or tags these events with degrees of response as either safe or dangerous. If tagged dangerous because of past trauma, either real or imagined, it reacts by creating anxiety or depression. If the event is tagged having to do with survival, the limbic system can create a focused craving for behavior that has been associated with survival in the past. The craving focuses our attention on that behavior until we feel safe or normal again. Thus an addiction is created. Addiction is not about getting high but [it provides] a way to feel normal (free of stress). The conscious mind learns to cooperate with the survival behavior (addiction) and protects it from being challenged by a filtering process called denial. The result is the addictive brain. 

The limbic system may have learned that having needs in a dysfunctional family resulted in vulnerability, hurt, abandonment, and isolation. In order to survive day after day in a dysfunctional/threatening atmosphere, a person has to find a system of thought that will allow for survival by removing stress. One way they may have done this is by thinking "I don¹t need anybody". If I don¹t need anybody, I'm not vulnerable. If I'm not vulnerable, I don¹t get hurt. 

(this is what Genesis calls a survival lie.) 

Every time a feeling of vulnerability is experienced, fear creeps in and warns, Danger! Feelings of fear and panic signal you to fight, flee, or freeze to avoid possible hurt. 
This limbic process responds automatically and subconsciously. Even after the painful or traumatic situation is over, the subconscious still believes that If I have needs and trust other people, I'm going to get hurt and I won't survive. When trust issues come up today, the limbic system can react with strong emotions as it was programmed . 
This fear can be expressed in anger/rage, self-gratification and mistrust which creates a survival personality. Your protective personality makes you feel in control (free of fear and stress) by pushing people away. This false sense of control is often achieved through self-gratification or compulsive/addictive behaviors which temporarily removes the awareness of the unwanted thoughts and feelings... The Limbic System controls basically three areas, food, sex and safety. Which is why all our compulsives / addictive behaviors are in these three areas. 

To change, you must reprogram your brain by first discovering these false beliefs and then replacing them with the truth. You will realize, for example, why you have been sabotaging relationships by believing that you don¹t need anybody. The truth is you need to trust God and others. The Limbic System will make it very difficult for you to make changes that involve risk (like recovery) unless it feels it is safe. And it's not safe to take risk alone. Personal change always involves risk. 

Limbic Lag 

Even though you've discovered false beliefs, uncovered the lies and know a new truth, there is a time lag between what your limbic system believes and what your neocortex has learned. This is called limbic lag, a process that can be anywhere from a couple of months to years, but it will get shorter as you continue to uncover and challenge the false beliefs (lies produced from traumatic experiences) and risk trusting again. You may have fear and panic attacks, but once you go through them without doing the old behavior, your limbic system will say, "Oh, we went through that and actually survived." The next time you experience the fear it will be less, and you will be able to make a good choice rather than overreacting with a fight , flight or freeze response. 
Old automatic habits aren't changed quickly or easily, and are stronger when we're tired. Many recovering addicts and trauma survivors have programmed the survival part of their brains with thousands and thousands of instances of avoiding unwanted thoughts or emotions choosing not to resolve with their issues, but to take "flight" into their addiction. Over time, this flight pattern becomes an automatic reaction. With a new identity based on new beliefs, you can change that flight pattern and reprogram their limbic system. 

Changes happens one decision at a time. No matter what your emotions tell you would feel good to do (drugs, alcohol, sex, food), listen to what your mind knows, and do what is best or right. If you continue to apply this key thought, you will begin to break the limbic patterns, and decrease the time of the limbic lag process. 

Anger and Anxiety 

Drugs and alcohol are anesthetics. They do one thing: they kill pain. It is reasonable to assume that when you give up the anesthetic, you will feel the pain, discomfort and uneasiness. Knowing what to do when this occurs is a critical skill in relapse prevention. Relapse prevention is finding new appropriate ways to respond to painful situations. In order to learn appropriate responses to pain, people with addictions have to allow themselves to feel. The two most common responses to pain are anger and anxiety. 

Anger is one of the most common responses to pain. This kind of response becomes normal in dysfunctional families where no one can admit problems or fears. Anger helps us cope with pain by physically making us tense, which causes excitement, releasing adrenaline and endorphins, diverting our attention from the pain. An angry response produces a neurochemical response similar to taking cocaine. Neurochemically speaking the main role of anger is to anesthetize fear. 

Most people say that anger makes them feel bad afterwards, but in the moment anger itself makes us feel big, right, strong, aggressive and powerful. Anger is a powerful physical and emotional anesthetic. Heroin is a powerful pain killer. When I ask heroin-addicted clients, How much heroin would you have to do for you not to feel it if I hit you in the face as hard as I could? their answer is always the same, right on the verge of overdosing and dying. Similarly, when a person is really angry, he can be hit in the face and not feel it. 

Consciously or subconsciously, we have learned to use emotions such as anger to kill pain and to avoid subconscious, unwanted thoughts, feelings, and memories. Many addicts have an addiction to anger as well as drugs, especially if their role models were rageaholics. Healthy people move towards their pain and face it courageously. Although risk is uncomfortable, we all enjoy the feeling that comes through conflict resolution and a clear conscience. Controling anger and avoiding things that need to be dealt with takes a tremendous amount of energy. Repressing the awareness of unresolved conflicts leads to exhaustion and resentment. 

Anxiety is equally used as an anesthetic to cope with feelings. Though uncomfortable, this emotion releases neurochemicals that cause the body to speed up and avoid depression. Dr. Stiles in his book Thorns in the Heart states that: 

Besides making us alert in crisis situations, anxiety has an additional function. It serves as an antidote to emotional and physical pain. Since anxiety is commonly thought of in connection with pain and distress, its pain-masking function may come as a surprise. If anxiety causes emotional pain, how does it also stop it? In modest amounts, anxiety is an effective smoke screen Here¹s where the trouble begins. When we find anxiety has served us well in a particular situation, such as masking pain, we may deliberately use it again. At this point our lower brain begins to record our response. Soon, an imprint, or habit, develops and we have learned anxiety. In time, anything triggering these learned patterns, or imprints, will produce the anxiety responses.

If a person holds on to two, small unresolved resentments which produce anxiety each day, in a year they would add up to 730! How many resentments do you think a person can hold inside as unresolved problems before that person relapses? What we know is this: resentment relapses alcoholics and addicts. As it says in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous: Resentment is the Number one offender. It destroys more alcoholics then anything else; from it stem all forms of spiritual disease. 

Relapse is a predictable process. It has identifiable stages, each of which has a distinctive neurochemical basis. The FASTER SCALE in the Genesis Process is a neurochemical model of relapse that identifies specific high risk behaviors for each stage of the relapse process. Before relapse happens, many biological, psychological and social changes affect our neurochemistry. Addicts speed up their avoidance behaviors, increasing anxiety and anger to mask pain. This depletes endorphins, causing hopelessness and exhaustion. In this state of exhaustion, addicts isolate and feel they cannot cope without chemicals. 

Every letter in the word FASTER stands for one of the steps in the relapse scale. This scale reflects a progression of strong emotions that mask pain. It explains neurochemically what almost every addict goes through in his descent to relapse. Remember, anger and anxiety release adrenaline and norepinephrine, which speed up the body. After speeding up we get ticked off and then exhausted. 

All the steps in the relapse process have one thing in common: procrastination. A problem that was never dealt with begins each state. As you fail to deal with problems, you move down the FASTER scale. Crisis comes at a time when you are least able to deal with it emotionally. The short version of the Faster Scale is speed up> anger > tired > use. 

The Faster Scale is a tool that can effectively see a relapse coming a minimum of two weeks before it happens. 

Stiles, S. Thorns in the Heart: A Christians Guide to Dealing with Pain. Washington: Gospel Publishing House, 1994. 

Anonymous, The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, AA.



Genesis program
Process 1 - Assessment
You and your counselor will assess your physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, and relational stability by determining how much support you have.
Process 2 - False Beliefs
You will begin to discover and challenge the false beliefs that have supported your destructive behavior.
Process 3 - Identity
You will begin to identify and detach from unhealthy things you've put your faith in and used to cope with life. In your discovery, you will learn how these things have undermined your attempts at success. You will discover areas of false identity that are based on false gods or idols, such as: alcohol and drugs, food, sex, money, beauty and work.
Process 4 - Life-Management Skills
This process will allow you to have more insight into the addictive brain and gain life- management skills for coping with the emotions that contribute to relapse. Many addicts have poor cognitive-behavioral or problem solving skills. This process teaches you coping skills using five life management skills.
Process 5 - Life History
You will gain a deeper understanding of traumatic events and habitual behaviors that have affected your life. You will gain insight into how your patterns of behavior originated. You will look for patterns that have consciously and subconsciously sabotaged your goals, recovery efforts, relationships, family wellness, and success in school work. Many compulsive / addictive behaviors are a way of receiving self gratification and promote isolation due to broken trust cycles and attachment issues related to childhood traumas.
Process 6 - Support Teams
You and your counselor will use all that you've learned about yourself and your recovery thus far, determining if you are currently at risk for relapse. Your challenge will be to develop a healthy support team.
The most common denominator of all relapse is isolation. Addictions thrive in secrecy and shame. Healthy people are able to get in touch with what they need, and ask for it. .
Process 7 - Dead Ends
You will learn to understand how your subconscious thoughts, feelings and behaviors have contributed to your relapses. New knowledge leads to new choices and behaviors. After making a relapse calendar, you will recount four stories about failed attempts at recovery, relationships, work or school to uncover subconscious behaviors that led to relapse and life threatening consequences.

IS IT A HEALTHY NEED OR AN UNHEALTHY WANT?

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Is it a Healthy NEED or an Unhealthy WANT?

Sunday, May 20, 2012

Healthy wants become unhealthy when we turn them into needs. 
Our desires were intended to supplement our life experiences. 
When we turn theses desires into a "need to sustain our life", 
we have crossed over into a place that can possibly put us into bondage and or addiction. 
We can recognize if we have elevated a desire/want to a place of need, 
if we will just take the time to examine our hearts. 

Recently, I made a HEALTHY LIVING CONTRACT with myself. 
I began to list the things I will choose not to eat and drink during the term of this contract. 
As I began to do so, I found myself hesitating on certain foods and drinks. 
What I discovered in the hesitation, was that I had been deceived into believing that these WANTS were now a NEED of mine and critical to my survival in this life. 
How deceptive these lies can be! I actually had thoughts such as, "If I can't have this food, 
I will not be able to be happy and I will not be able to keep my commitment!". 
WOW; that immediately felt like a lie to my soul. 
This was truly an awakening for me. 

Who do you think it is that would want to turn your life's wants into needs 
in order to make your life's worth an issue out of them? 
Does your self-talk or language ever include, 
"I must have ________(food, drink, clothing, relationships, etc.) in order to feel (happy, fulfilled, at peace, comforted, etc)? 
Unless I surrender all my rights, even my healthy rights, 
I have placed myself under a law on myself or another to meet my needs. 

(This part is personal to me, but you can feel free to adjust to fit your own... 
Christ is my life--He is Eternal Life, the Way, the Truth and the Life; 
If I have to be in Christ plus ANYTHING else, in order to feel peaceful, 
then I have believed a lie that will paralyze me and my goals for a healthy lifestyle. 
I need water, love, acceptance, and healthy foods to survive and be happy. 
I do not need junk food to be loved, accepted, or to survive or be happy. 
Christ is my life and I need nothing besides Him and His directives to have my needs met.) 

I believe the enemy would like to keep me turning my unhealthy wants into (perceived) needs 
so that I would continue trying to meet those needs in my own strength and power (because HE will certainly not be giving me HIS power and strength to meet those deceptively inspired, perceived needs. 

I choose to surrender all that is unhealthy today. 
There is NOTHING I need that has not already been given to me. 
The things that I need are FREE to me. 
The things that are unhealthy wants are very COSTLY to me. 
I refuse to bow to unhealthy wants. 
I commit today to live a life of surrender and be thankful that all my needs are 
ABUNDANTLY MET already.

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